There is no one definition of resilience. To some it means toughness, to others it means adaptability. For those who have experienced trauma, it might mean surviving.  Resilience as an action can reduce suffering, and help us with understanding, meaning and recovery, all helping us to rise every day and continue on.

One common question is what makes some more resilient than others? There are many factors to consider ie: previous exposure (think first responders who see it every day) that has a purpose and intention to it, connected to an action and outcome, that makes a difference.   Things like an understanding support system that help us physically and emotionally, to help us regain a sense of control and understanding of life before and after an event.

Please do not think of it as a weakness or lack on your part if you don’t have the resilience you want to have.  Research has shown another factor to consider in resilience is based on the caregiver relationship during the developmental phases of life. If this isn’t secure, it will have an impact on developing resilience.  The great part is that we can always learn to develop resilience. Some examples to build are:

1. Focus on problem solution not problem creation
2. Embracing change as a positive
3. Focus on empowerment
4. Look for meaning
5. Develop an action list

The most important part is to remember you are not alone and resilience can be developed at any time.