According to Miriam Webster, trust is: “a firm belief in the reliability, truth, ability or strength of someone or something.”
What we know for sure is that living a life without trust, means living a life without feeling safety in self and others.
There is no such thing as safety without trust and no such thing as trust without safety. It’s a challenging Catch 22 to be sure.
For those who have lived a life with this, the lack of trust /safety begin to take on a life of their own, resulting in thoughts and actions that become a prison that can no longer be seen as the fear has now moved from the outside world to inside the person themselves. The patterns have become so imbedded, that quite often it isn’t even realized.
What was once a survival mechanism has now become a hyper-vigilant mask / set of glasses we see the world with & from.
There are so many ways to change this perception, to increase personal safety, to truly believe it and feel it for yourself. It truly starts with a simple willingness to just look at it and stay with whatever emotion comes up. The real power in all of our emotions is in how much energy we give them. If we feed the fears, they grow and take over, but if we sit with them and just feel them, stop running away from them, their hold on us lessens.
If you can change your relationship to fear, trust & safety will come. We can never undo what has happened in the past, but we can change our relationship and perception to what it has left behind. The moment you make the decision and start to do this work, it changes. It will never ever feel as bad, or unsafe as it does right now, I promise.