Quite often in life we are simply stuck, but instead think or believe we are broken. Being in this position, keeps us in the middle of our past and our future, in something called the present. Yet being present is one of the hardest things we ever have to do as we spend most of our lives, reliving the past or worrying about the future. So it feels uncomfortable – and when we are uncomfortable we look to figure it out, assign blame and/or use ABM’s to avoid feeling anything in the situation altogether.
Similar to some of my other posts, changing this requires a change in thinking or actions, something that we do differently. In this case, needing to take a moment in the present to figure out where we are and what is actually happening is necessary.
Working on the assumption that we are are still working from a place of “mistaken beliefs” we can also assume that you are thinking that you are somehow “broken” and thus responsible for being “stuck” and have judged this to be a bad thing. So lets try to change that, even for this conversation, so you can do something differently and hopefully take a step forward.
Let’s imagine for a moment that there is nothing wrong with you and this situation is simply an opportunity to take stock of where you are, how things are going and if any corrections need to take place. So for this, let’s also change the meaning of “stuck” to being an opportunity, rather than it holding a negative attachments.
So now that we have changed stuck to opportunity, does that change how you feel about being in this place? i.e.: what does being in this place of opportunity mean about you? While you are considering that, I hope it is easy to see that it DOESN’t mean that there is anything wrong or broken with you.
I know this is pretty simplistic example, but making changes really can be that simple. Looking at the meaning you assign to words and actions, can make all the difference in how you see yourself. There is nothing to lose, but everything to gain.