May 12 – Being Direct – Mark Nepo, The Book of Awakening
“Everybody’s bald underneath their hair.” Susan McHenry
We waste so much energy trying to cover up who we are, when beneath every attitude is the want to be loved, and beneath every anger is a wound to be healed and beneath every sadness is the fear that there will not be enough time.
When we hesitate in being direct, we unknowingly slip something on, some added layer of protection that keeps us from feeling the world, and often that thin covering is the beginning of a loneliness which, if not put down, diminishes our chances for joy.
It’s like wearing gloves every time we touch something, and then, forgetting we chose to put them on, we complain that nothing feels quite real. In this way, our challenge each day is not to get dressed to face the world, but to unglue ourselves so that the doorknobs feel cold, and the car handle feels wet, and the kiss good-bye feels like the lips of another being, soft and unrepeatable.