What is Secure Attachment? In a phrase – healthy autonomy. This is a natural, biological connection, created by parents and caregivers who were/are tuned in to the child’s needs and respond with warmth, connection and safe physical contact. Children are confident that parents will respond to their needs, so feel…
“At heart, hospitality is a helping across a threshold.” Ivan Illich In Dante’s Divine Comedy, Virgil lovingly guides Dante through the hell of denial and the purgatory of illusion, up to a passage of fire that Dante must cross alone, beyond which he becomes authentic. Earlier in history, Aaron guides…
“The moment one definitely commits oneself, then Providence moves too. All sorts of things occur to help one that would never otherwise have occurred. A whole stream of events issues from the decision which no one could have dreamed would have come their way.” W.H.Murray We’d all like a guarantee…
Being true to who we are means carrying our spirit like a candle in the center of our darkness. If we are to live without silencing or numbing essential parts of who we are, a vow must be invoked and upheld within oneself. The same commitments we pronounce when embarking…
From the beginning, the key to renewal has been shedding, the casting off of old skin. The Polynesians say the world began when Taaora—their name for the Creator—woke to find himself growing inside a shell. He stretched and broke the shell, and the Earth was created. Taaora kept growing, though,…
The soul hovers like a sun within: burning its way out without ever leaving center. We call this—the burning out—passion. From where does our passion come? It is not taught. It is only allowed through. Or not. When resisted, it carves out the heart daily. When allowed through, it rises and…
We come with all these parts and no instructions how they go together. It is so tempting to want the answers before we begin the journey. We like to know our way. We like to have maps. We like to have guides. But we are more like a breathing puzzle, a…
We are so unused to emotion that we mistake any depth of feeling for sadness, any sense of the unknown for fear, and any sense of peace for boredom. We are so schooled away from the life below that anything beneath the surface scares us. But the need to look beneath…
“Faith is the state of being ultimately concerned.” Paul Tillich It can’t be helped. We return through different questions to the same central issue: How do we live fully? How do we live in such a way that the wonder of feeling out fuels the pain of breaking? I’m not…
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